This time of the year again; the school year is over, exams have taken place. Time to relax and enjoy a well deserved rest whilst waiting for results. Actually, if I remember well, this is also a time of stress and anxiety for parents and young adults alike, and this year with the credit crunch reducing the amount of available work, the worry is even greater. What will they do next?
In a bid to help our children, we discuss what they might want to consider in the light of what they are good at or like to do. We offer advice: have you thought about, what about… We give practical help: CV writing, scanning the papers for ideas, jobs, talk about it to friends and acquaintances…
What if the best help a parent, friend, teacher… could offer was to not ask the question they are dying to ask: “So what will you do next?”? What if they stopped offering help and advice?
Asking about the future, making suggestions, offering advice only serves to pile on the pressure. And we all know when we are under pressure we cannot think clearly. So what if dropping the subject, not offering help, just letting your child enjoy the summer was the best thing to do. I know just how tough it is, but it may be the best way to give those we love the space to think for themselves about their future.
Hélène created the FunShop to help those at crossroads personally or professionally find a sense of direction and increase in self confidence. www.thefunshopway.co.uk